Relationship Tips - Is She Faking It?

by Matt Shine | 7 April 2014

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Is she faking it?

Is she faking – its a question many guys ask themselves and if left unanswered plays havoc with his ego and prowess as a lover, it niggles at you, it's not one you can ask your friends for fear of ridicule, so how can you tell is she or not?

If you're in a new relationship and are still getting to know her, you might not be familiar with the signs. Your suspicions could be unfounded, but it is hard to know. Luckily, female first have engaged the help of the experts and taken advice from the makers of one of the nation's leading adult toy manufacturers and asked We-Vibe's experts to put together a guide on how to spot a fake, and how to get the real deal instead.

Read on if any of these behaviours are giving you doubts, discover the real reason and how to respond.

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She's shy
You're worried because: You feel like you're always the instigator. It's not that she isn't responsive when you make a move - once you get going, she seems to enjoy it. But she is quite and hard to read. If it really rocked her world, wouldn't she be more enthusiastic?
Why not try: Letting her drive. Your lady is likely just a little self-conscious. Try a position that puts her more in charge. She knows what pushes her buttons, so take note of how she moves when she has control. This will give you insight into what works for her.
She may be the driver, but how you thrust can make or break a successful session. Try moving in circles rather than up and down. This will keep as much of the base of your penis in contact with her as possible. Short and shallow thrusts, rather than deep and fast, can induce a more intense orgasm.

She prefers oral
You're worried because: She definitely enjoys you going down on her, but her enthusiasm seems to wane when it comes to the main event. You're pretty sure she orgasms during oral, but you'd like her to enjoy intercourse as much as you do.
Why not try: Spooning her. A position that focuses on her G-spot may be best, especially if you have just stimulated the clitoris through oral sex. The clitoris is sensitive and prolonged pressure on it can be uncomfortable.
In this case, a classic spooning position could be best. Check out the We-Book of Delights for tips on this and other positions. She: lies on her side and tilts her pelvis to find the ideal position for G-spot stimulation. He: snuggles up behind and enters her in the spooning position. Together: kiss cheeks, neck or arms and move in sync.

She's inconsistent
You're worried because: Most of the time, you're certain she has - in fact, she definitely has! But on other occasions, she's just not as into it. She responds far better when there is plenty of time to warm up, and you're usually happy to oblige. However, when you're pushed for time or having a quickie before work, she seems to be faking it…..
Why not try: A toy. Many women find it harder to orgasm under pressure, or in a rush. Spicing things up with a sex toy is not only fun, but also a great way to increase intensity and reach climax that much faster. We-Vibe 4 is a couples' massager that enhances sex for both of you simultaneously. She wears it during sex for extra stimulation to her clitoris and G-spot, and you fit in underneath to share the vibe. The heightened sensation is a guaranteed way to please you both and facilitate a great finale, even under time pressure.

She's overcompensating?
You're worried because: You can't fault her enthusiasm, and you've never encountered anyone willing to shout about it (literally) in the way she does. At first you thought you were 'the man'! But now you're wondering, really? Could there be some over-compensating going on here…?
Why not try: Watching for the physical signs of orgasm. Some women love making noise, and it is possible she is one of them! Ask yourself if this fits with her personality – it could very likely be real. But keep an eye out as well for the physical signs of orgasm aside from noise. The main ones are increased breathing and heart rate, accompanied by dilated pupils. Her lips should flush, as they swell and redden upon arousal. Vaginal muscle spasms are a big indicator, because she cannot fake or hide this. They will grip your penis, and the tightening feeling you experience will be impossible to miss.

More information on We-Vibe's sexual wellness products can be found on the website we-vibe.com.

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by Matt Shine for www.femalefirst.co.uk
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